Sometimes I love attention from men. But when it’s respectful and when I clearly indicate that I want it. Guys, here is how you tell if a girl is interested: if she makes direct eye contact with you, smiles, and asks you questions, then she probably wouldn’t mind getting to know you. (If you’re British [...]
[21 Aug 2010]
I believe CS and Web Development currently select for certain masculine qualities that are largely unrelated to someone’s prowess as a coder. I believe it is these tangential code-cowboy qualities women are unable or unwilling to emulate, and not their skill or capacity for abstraction, problem solving, creative thinking, or communication — All of which [...]
[27 Jul 2010]
Photo by Ranoush. Found on Flickr. “No matter how smart I was, I wasn’t getting the respect I wanted. They still hit on me, made crude remarks and even smacked me on the butt a couple times. [With the niqab,] they have to deal with my brain because I don’t give them any other choice.” [...]
[13 Jun 2010]
Sweden had already gone further than many countries have now in relieving working mothers: Children had access to highly subsidized preschools from 12 months and grandparents were offered state-sponsored elderly care. The parent on leave got almost a full salary for a year before returning to a guaranteed job, and both could work six-hour days [...]
[10 Jun 2010]
“If a woman is merely perceived as having the intention to gain power … people are likely to make a wealth of inferences about her character, and judge her accordingly,“ write Tyler Okimoto and Victoria Brescoll of the Yale School of Management. “Specifically, the intention to gain power may signal to others that she is [...]
[9 Jun 2010]
Our work must be not just about marriage equality, it should also be about equal marriages, and about equal rights and security for those who opt out of marriage altogether. From Melissa Harris-Lacewell‘s post Reflections on Marriage (via Twanna). Yes. Read the whole thing. Harris-Lacewell captures most of my fears and concerns about marriage and [...]
[8 Apr 2010]
Westerners are quick to denounce customs in, say, the Muslim world that they perceive as limiting women. But in Germany, despite its vaunted modernity, a traditional perception of motherhood lingers. The half-day school system survived feudalism, the rise and demise of Hitler’s mother cult, the women’s movement of the 1970s and reunification with East Germany. [...]
[18 Jan 2010]
I know it’s hard to believe for some, but American or shall I say, Western values aren’t celebrated by the entire world. And just because we think something is wrong doesn’t give us the right to go butting into how other countries choose to govern. Had we learned that lesson a long time ago, perhaps [...]
[10 Dec 2009]
The one thing I’ll be damned if I let stand in my spheres of influence, though, is the erasure, violence, and willful intolerance, that comes from being close-minded and ignorant about the interconnectedness of the basics of the human condition. From Brandon‘s post It’s A Fight for Our Lives.
[8 Dec 2009]
On the heels of Molly’s post Hooters: Not A Fair Place to Speak Geek, we have the how-not-to post from Tom Morris on women and geek dinners. What with the smoking ban and the fact that Hooters (etc.) is not everywhere, you cannot rely on the venue alone to make sure women don’t turn up. [...]
[17 Jun 2008]