Tiffany B. Brown

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How to tell when a woman wants you

Sometimes I love attention from men. But when it’s respectful and when I clearly indicate that I want it. Guys, here is how you tell if a girl is interested: if she makes direct eye contact with you, smiles, and asks you questions, then she probably wouldn’t mind getting to know you. (If you’re British and you’re in America, you’re pretty much given an automatic green light. This is a half-joke.) If she’s mumbling, looking down, closing off her space to you, and gives short answers, she wants you to leave. She’s just been conditioned to think that she can’t say, “Get the fuck away from me.” There are LOTS OF WOMEN, I KNOW, WHO CAN SAY THAT. And who have every right. But I’m just not one of them. I can’t. I have to to think of myself first. I can’t worry that you, strange man in a bar, is going to flip out when I reject you harshly.

From Stop Hitting On Me. So tempted to print this on a flyer and hand it out to every man between here and downtown Atlanta.

Also see: Guest Blogger Starling: Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced

  • http://patricia-elizabeth.com Patricia Elizabeth

    I was talking about something similar with a friend recently. I find it so odd that some men can’t tell when they’ve crossed the line into freaky. And how it puts one in the unfortunate situation of having to seem overly sensitive and mildly bitchy to say, “Back off. Have you not noticed that I’ve not once responded to your attempts at flirting/friendship/etc?” I mentioned to a couple of guy friends recently that the actions of one particular person were making me uncomfortable and the general response was, “He’s just being nice.” But the women I spoke to about it agreed that it was beyond nice and going into weird territory. I guess it’s a gender thing??