Tiffany B. Brown

a mish-mosh of stuff

On Love and Marriage and Being Yourself

To find out that I could be a singular human being and also be in a marriage was the only reason that our marriage was able to survive.

Julie Powell in Salon.com’s Becoming a piece of meat

http://patricia-elizabeth.com/ Patricia

Did she come to this realization before or after her affair?
I'm gonna take my rocks and go shore up my glass house now. Excuse me.
http://misterjt.tumblr.com/rss Jason T.

It sounds like both she and her husband had affairs and have come out of it still together and understanding of each other. I really liked her full quote about what marriage is

“I'm now in a marriage that is much happier than it was, but I am skeptical of the sort of complacency with which traditional marriage is defined. I'd had very childish views of what a marriage is. We'd put ourselves in this box with a bow — and I realized you can't live like that. Monogamy can work beautifully but it's a constant moving and growing and changing thing. A marriage doesn't get fixed, it moves.”

Sounds like a fascinating book.
tiffanybbrown

Heh heh… I'm guessing after. Without condoning her affairs (nor entirely condemning them; besides it sounds like they were mutual), I can say that being in a relationship where you are losing yourself will make you do crazy things.

Agreeing with Jason though that the entire quote is worth thinking about. That sentence just resonated with me.
http://patricia-elizabeth.com/ Patricia

Oh, I agree with the quote. I was just being snarky and evil and then fully acknowledging I don't have much room to talk as I've not been a perfect angel. But, uhm, we don't need to go into that here. O_o

Having lived and spent time in a culture where affairs aren't necessarily condoned nor condemmed, my thoughts on infedility, monogamy, open marriages is a hodpodge mess. It's hard, sometimes, to separate what I know and what I believe (feel).
http://patricia-elizabeth.com/ Patricia

Did she come to this realization before or after her affair?
I'm gonna take my rocks and go shore up my glass house now. Excuse me.
http://misterjt.tumblr.com/rss Jason T.

It sounds like both she and her husband had affairs and have come out of it still together and understanding of each other. I really liked her full quote about what marriage is

“I'm now in a marriage that is much happier than it was, but I am skeptical of the sort of complacency with which traditional marriage is defined. I'd had very childish views of what a marriage is. We'd put ourselves in this box with a bow — and I realized you can't live like that. Monogamy can work beautifully but it's a constant moving and growing and changing thing. A marriage doesn't get fixed, it moves.”

Sounds like a fascinating book.
tiffanybbrown

Heh heh… I'm guessing after. Without condoning her affairs (nor entirely condemning them; besides it sounds like they were mutual), I can say that being in a relationship where you are losing yourself will make you do crazy things.

Agreeing with Jason though that the entire quote is worth thinking about. That sentence just resonated with me.
http://patricia-elizabeth.com/ Patricia

Oh, I agree with the quote. I was just being snarky and evil and then fully acknowledging I don't have much room to talk as I've not been a perfect angel. But, uhm, we don't need to go into that here. O_o

Having lived and spent time in a culture where affairs aren't necessarily condoned nor condemmed, my thoughts on infedility, monogamy, open marriages is a hodpodge mess. It's hard, sometimes, to separate what I know and what I believe (feel).