Love. Fidelity.
But not commitment.
And by commitment, I mean a willingness to stick it out, to fight, to yell, to hold him/her responsible, to get counseling if necessary. An active choice you make to put in the work necessary to keep things going. An understanding that although you love him/her, you may not always like him/her, but you’re willing to work to get back to that point.
Love. Fidelity….
But not commitment.
And by commitment, I mean a wi……
I’ve always felt like love and fidelity were nice to haves, but when it comes to true relationship success (which I’m sure has a pretty relative definition - in this case long-lasting), commitment is paramount. Not so much a commitment to one another, but a commitment to the ideal of the relationship and its place in the scheme of a healthy civilization.
Otherwise, it becomes a game about one’s self. That’s not intrinsically a bad thing, but it can certainly lead to upheaval in societies based on relative stability.
But it’s like the song says… sometimes “a change will do you good.”